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The Dinner Before The Big One

by The Generous Husband | Nov 25, 2024 | Acts of Service, Do It For Her

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If Thanksgiving is at your place this year, your wife has a lot of cooking and other work to get ready. Make that a bit easier by taking care of dinner Wednesday night.

It needs to be something simple and easy to clean up. Picking up or ordering in pizza would be a great choice. Make it your job to get the meal, get everyone to the table, and do all the clean-up afterwards. If your wife needs the table for cooking, or wants to start decorating it early, do a picnic on the living room floor.

The other option is to take the kids out for dinner so your wife has the house alone. Ask her if this is even better.

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Learn To Enjoy Playing Outside!

by The Generous Husband | Nov 23, 2024 | Do It For Her, Rethinking Sex

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Most men really enjoy sexual intercourse. Entry feels incredible, climax is amazing, and everything in between those are great too.

Most women also enjoy intercourse. But most of them don’t climax from intercourse without some added stimulation.

There are those who say men’s “obsession with penetration” is unfair to women, and keeps them from enjoying sex, or keeps them from enjoying it as much as they should. I’m not one of those folks, but there is a valid point there if you don’t take it too far. When every act of sex includes what we most want, might we be missing the opportunity to make sex amazing for our wives?

If intercourse is always a part of your love making, try excluding it on occasion. Focus on learning to pleasure each other with your hands, your mouths, or a vibrator. And, there are ways to rub your genitals together without penetration that can be very enjoyable for both of you, so explore that as well. Then add what you learn to your regular routine.

If you find she is more willing to have sex when you make it clear there will be no intercourse, that means something. If this is the case, you need some discussion to figure out what it means, and what changes you might need to make.

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How Mental Fatigue Affects Behaviour and Doing Better

by The Generous Husband | Nov 21, 2024 | Do It For Her

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A ran across a study that found mental fatigue can lead to increased aggression and uncooperative behaviour due to changes in the brain’s frontal cortex.

This would explain why I have to work harder to be nice to Lori when I’ve spent hours doing coding. And why she has the same struggle after doing a lot of bookkeeping.

You could see this as proof your aggression and being uncooperative are understandable. Or you can take this as a warning and work to avoid those outcomes. The latter choice is far better for your wife and your marriage.

Learn how much is too much, and stop before you’re no longer willing to keep yourself in check.

Reference: Prolonged exertion of self-control causes increased sleep-like frontal brain activity and changes in aggressivity and punishment

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Not Nearly Often Enough

by The Generous Husband | Feb 29, 2024 | Audio, Do It For Her, ZIMAGE

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Today is February 29th – a day that comes around even less often than a blue moon.

What happens far too infrequently in your marriage? I mean besides sex. What do you, or your wife, need to happen more frequently? What does your marriage need to happen more often?

For a moment, ignore what it would take to make those things happen, and ask yourself what is too rare in your marriage. There might be one big thing, or a lot of small ones. Or a lot of big ones! Pick one thing to work on. I’d suggest one of that should be fairly easy. Figure out what it would take to make it happen more frequently. Seek your wife’s help as needed. When you accomplish one, pick another.

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Step Up to the Stove: Easy Meals When Your Wife Needs a Break

by The Generous Husband | Feb 19, 2024 | Audio, Do It For Her, Good Marriage, Her Needs, ZIMAGE

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If your wife does most or all of the cooking, that can be a strain on her at times. When she’s busy, stressed, or sick, be ready to jump in and feed the family.

The trick here is coming up with a tasty, healthy meal that you can produce on command. That means it has to be things that store well for a good while. There are some great frozen entrées (check Costco), but you can probably do better. Spaghetti is easy. Get a jar or two of good sauce, have noodles, and keep some frozen meatballs in the back of the freezer. A frozen vegetable medley is also beginner level, and you can keep it around easily. French bread is a nice touch, and again you can find frozen heat-and-eat versions. You should be able to pull the whole meal together in half an hour…

And of course, then you do all the clean-up, because you’re a generous husband!

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Understanding Your Wife’s Top Priorities

by The Generous Husband | Feb 13, 2024 | Audio, Do It For Her, Her Needs, ZIMAGE

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So imagine with me that your wife was perfect in almost every way. She did what you would like, when and how you would like. And she did that everywhere except the bedroom. Perfect in every other way, but sex was rare, and poor when it happened.

Would you be all about all the ways she is so perfect, or would you be upset about your horrible sex life?

Your wife is the same way, but her priorities are different. If you do all kinds of things really well but fail to do the things she most wants, she will feel as you would if she were good at everything except sex.

The tricky part is most women don’t have one thing that matters as much as sex matters to most men. What’s more, every woman is different. But there are a couple of things that really matter to her, and if you get those right, she will be thrilled.

So how do you figure out what her couple of things are? Watch her. Ask her. Ask her friends. Or just go with trial and error and listen for feedback.

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Show Your Wife You Care on Valentine’s Day

by The Generous Husband | Feb 12, 2024 | Audio, Big Deal Post, Do It For Her, Her Needs, ZIMAGE

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So, Valentine’s is Wednesday. What are you doing to show your love for your wife?

Yes, it’s become way over-commercialised. Yes, it’s just another day. And yet, unless your wife is very unusual, she would like you to do SOMETHING to express your love on a day dedicated to expressing romantic love. Not doing that is playing Russian Roulette with five bullets!

For some of you, something small will do it. A card, a flower, or a box of chocolates. Some wives would really like a nice date. Given the day falls on Wednesday this year, you can easily go for the weekend after. A handwritten love letter is always a good choice. And coupons promising to do various things she enjoys is good too.

If you care about your wife, do something!

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Make Your Marriage Better With Shared Experiences While Apart

by The Generous Husband | Feb 5, 2024 | Audio, Do It For Her, Good Marriage, Simple Ideas, ZIMAGE

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I’ve told you that shared experiences make a marriage better. And you can have shared experiences even when you’re not together.

When you see something beautiful, cute, amazing, or funny, grab your phone and get a picture. Then send it to your wife. Or even better, share it with her the next time you’re together.

BTW, this tells her you think about her when you’re apart, and that’s a great message to send.

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