Yesterday I asked if your past is destroying your marriage. Today I want to look at the possibility that your wife’s past is destroying your marriage.

Does your wife accuse you of things you’ve never done that some former romantic partner did to her? Does she fear you will do what a past lover did? Does this happen even though you have given her no reason to think you would do those things?

If she is doing this, you probably see it. Even if you don’t know about some bad event in her past, you can see she is reacting to you based on something other than who you have always been with her. And promising you will never do that doesn’t help, because you are not the problem. 

Sometimes a woman gets over this kind of things with time. But sometimes it just gets worse as the years go by. And the longer you wait to press the issue, the more resistance you’re going to get.

If you’re stuck in this, your best bet is to lovingly tell her that you’re tired of being punished for what ________ did and you need her to deal with it so your marriage can become what God intended. If she won’t listen, ask one of her friends to urge her to get help. Don’t keep taking it, because that is a good way to lose your marriage!

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