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So Sunday night we took our grandsons out for the annual meal and look at Christmas lights event. This year we added their cousin. So we had three boys from five to ten for an hour plus drive both ways, plus an hour in a restaurant. Yes, we’re crazy. 

It’s not something either of us was just dying to do. We’d much rather have had a peaceful meal together and then drive around to look at the lights without constant noise. But we love our grandkids. We also love their parents, who got four hours without them. We’re building memories and relationships, and because we’ve come to understand how important that is, we’re very intentional about it.

The same dynamic should be an intentional part of how you love your wife. You need to build good memories together, and you need to engage in activities together. Sometimes you will be all about those activities, and other times you will do something you have no desire to do because your wife wants to do it. A marriage can’t be strong and healthy without this kind of sacrifice from time to time.

Often we avoid doing things we don’t want to do by telling ourselves we’re too busy. But that’s a self-serving lie that only hurts those around us. Making time for what your wife wants to do with you is making time for a good marriage. Not making time for those things is telling her you don’t care about her very much.

It’s not too late to schedule a date to look at Christmas lights. If you don’t want to do a meal out too, stop for pie and coffee after, or take a thermos of hot chocolate. You should be able to find good lightseeing locations by Googling “Christmas lights in my area“.

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