Why HOW You Fight Matters More Than WHAT You Fight About

This is another post on the importance of fighting nice when you argue with your wife.

The fact is, how you fight is far more important than what you fight about. How you fight can destroy a marriage; I’ve seen it happen more than once. Even if most fights are resolved to the satisfaction of both spouses, destructive fighting erodes a marriage in ways that are very difficult to repair.

Husband and wife choking each other.

Sometimes when Lori and I deal with a couple, how they fight is so harmful that we try to deal with that without discussing what they’re fighting about. That can be a difficult sell, since we usually feel passionately about the issues we fight about.

If you and your wife fight in destructive ways, please see that as a bigger issue than what you are arguing about. If you can learn to argue in a respectful, non-harmful way, you will be better able to deal with the actual issues.

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