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I watched an interesting couple interaction at church today. The husband had taken their kids down to Sunday School after worship. When he came back, he sat one chair away from his wife. He silently explained this to her by pointing to the AC vent in front of the chair he took. She didn’t do much, but a micro-expression showed she was not impressed he’s put his comfort over sitting with her. So he moved over next to her, and she gave a small smile.
You could read this interaction many ways. You could claim she should have moved, or that she was being manipulative. What I saw was a man who read the situation well, and choose to put his wife first. And I suspect she felt the same way.
Sometimes the wisest and most loving thing to do is to accept the reality in our wife’s mind, and act on it.
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Sounds like a husband being attentive to the desire of his wife. The desire of the wife seems to be “put me first and show me that you care”. I believe this should be the normal course of action by a loving husband. A husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church and “gave himself for it”. I wonder why the husband did not make the right choice to begin with. Is he inconsiderate to his wife normally or just dumb ?
What if the situation is reversed ? What if a husband has a desire or need that the wife does not want to accommodate ? What does a husband who strives to meet all desires and wants of his wife do when his simple wants are unimportant? I would guess that the result is situations like this example. I doubt that is the case in this example. I am just blowing off steam so to speak.
@Chris B – We’ve had a hot stretch, and he just came up a flight of stairs, so I don’t see his desire to cool down as invalid. I think it would have been better to whisper that to her and ask her to move over one chair so they could sit together and he could be cool.