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I’m going to suggest something that goes against your natural sex instinct. Hear me out, and give it a try.
When a couple has intercourse, the man is usually all about thrusting. And the faster and harder, the better. This makes sense; our pleasure, and orgasm, are a result of friction between the head of our penis and the walls of her vagina.
But thrusting and friction don’t do much for your wife, beyond possibly making her sore. Her pleasure and orgasm comes from stimulation of her clitoris. Some women get enough stimulation from thrusting to climax, some don’t. But it’s the end of your stroke, when the based of our penis and your pubic bone make contact with her vulva, that gives her that stimulation. If you fully insert and make very short strokes, that will do more for her than those long strokes that you enjoy.
The other thing, is that just being inside her can be intimate and physically pleasurable for both of you. And this is true for women who will never climax from intercourse. Gentle thrusting, or no thrusting at all, will give you these things while avoiding discomfort for her and helping you to last longer.
So the next time your body yells at you to go full speed ahead, tell it to wait. Play with going slower or not moving at all. Try very deep, short strokes. You could also remain still and slip your hand between your bodies and finger her clit to make her come before you finish with strong strokes.
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This is why I love the concept of Karezza! The joy is in the journey, not just the destination.
@James – I do have a variety of concerns about never climaxing. But not always doing so can be nice.
@Paul – Never? Yeah, to me karezza is not really about never. I just think of it as taking the long way home, on a frequent basis. If your concern is about semen release, then you don’t need to necessarily climax to do that.
@James – Got it. That it what practitioners say, so I was not sure. Semen release is part of it, but I think God made the entire sex act for us, and we’re unwise to abandon any part of it.