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So yesterday was National Handjob day.
When you hear “handjob” you probably think of her hand making you come. But what about your hand making her come?
For most women, a handjob is easier and easier to accept than other forms of sex. She might be willing to exchange handjobs when she would say no to intercourse. And if your wife has a higher drive than you do, giving her handjobs are a great way to even things out.
Some things to make it better:
Be Prepared:
Your hands should be clean, and your nails trimmed. Have lube ready to make it better for her. If she tends to get really wet, have a small towel, so she can clean up after without having to get out of bed.
Be all about her comfort:
A pillow under each of her knees can make a big difference. Make sure the room is warm enough for her, or keep her covered. If she has body issues, low or no light will make it better for her.
Don’t skip foreplay:
She needs the kissing and non-genital fondling you would do if you were going to have intercourse. By the time you get your hand between her legs, she should be wanting it.
Position:
Laying beside her is easy and intimate. And, it allows you to kiss her as you pleasure her. Sitting between her legs gives you the use of both hands, better access, and, um, a nice view.
Penetration:
A finger inside may increase her enjoyment. Be sure she is good and aroused before you enter her.
Follow her lead:
She will move, especially as she gets close to orgasm. Figure out how she is moving and work with it.
Finish well:
When she is closing in on climax, don’t change what you’re doing. When she comes, continue to simulate her, backing off gradually. Each woman is different on this, so learn what is best for her.
Add some buzz:
A small vibrator can be a big help.
Handjobs are not just for men! How could doing them for your wife make your sex life better?
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