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How many orgasms a week would it take for you to be sexually satisfied?
Actually, it’s a trick question – because not all orgasms are created equal.
I recall the first time Lori made me come; I lost all desire to ever again do it myself because what she did was so much better. I doubt it was better physically, as I’d done it a great many times, and it was a new thing for her. But when she did it I also experienced mental, emotional, and relational pleasure. The mix of those made it far better than anything I could ever do myself. There is even science to back this up. A study found that the prolactin release from intercourse is five times as great a that from masturbation. As prolactin is believed to be a hormonal indication of sexual satiety, this means intercourse with your wife is far more satisfying than solo masturbation.
I’ve not seen a study of other couple sex acts, but I suspect some would be better than others. Of course, there’s more to it than that. A slow handjob from an involved wife is going to be more satisfying than a mercy quickie.
If you want sex more than your wife, it’s easy to fall into the number trap. But if you think about sexual satisfaction in terms of number of climaxes, you’re missing it. Three good orgasms could be far more satisfying than half a dozen of lesser ones. If the frequency of sex is limited, then working for the best sex possible is the path to being more sexually satisfied.
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I don’t know about the science, but I think this idea is clearly correct.
This is definitely the case for me.
Solo masturbation merely takes the “edge” off, but does NOTHING for the real need – intimate connection with my wife. Solo masturbation is just lonely.
Her cuddling up to me and caressing and petting, while I do myself is much better. Even better, she uses her hands to “do” me. The more actively involved, the better. The more complete the experience, the more intimate and fulfilling.
And, of course about 10X better than any of those is intercourse. Which meets the need for relational connection, the giving and receiving of pleasure (both of which are important) and complete satisifaction.
Those experiences are all different.