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The other day we were driving up the hill to get home, and we spooked a wild rabbit. It zigzagged in front of us for several hundred feet before it ran into the woods. Had I not slowed down, I would have hit it. I understand that the zigzagging could save its life if it was being chased by a coyote, but those instincts are counterproductive with a car. We see the same with deer. They’re in a field eating, and when we scare them, their instincts tell them to run into the woods – which means crossing the road in front of us.
All of this reminds me of seeing men do the same thing in their marriages. It’s not that we exactly have instincts, but some of what comes naturally to us is counterproductive to having a good marriage.
Accusing your wife of being emotional, or dismissing what she says with such a claim, are examples. Asking her to “calm down” is another one. And trying to beat emotions with logic or “intelligence” won’t get you the result you want either.
Sarcasm is a bad choice with many women, and making negative comments about people she likes won’t go over well either. Grunting rather than using words is often going to end badly. Likewise, for trying to get by with “fine” or “whatever”.
Making endless sexual comments outside a sexual setting is a bad plan. Trying to excuse anything you or another man did on the basis of being horny is also harmful. And using slang words she dislikes is always bad, especially when you are having sex.
If you pay attention to how your wife acts when you do things, you can learn what goes well and what does not. Then do more of the former and far less of the latter.
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