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Yesterday over on The XY Code I told the women about a study that found that men see visible nipple erection through clothing as a sign of increased sexuality, and they make assumptions about such a woman’s behaviour and interests. They also make decisions about how they will treat her based on her erect nipples.
First, the biology lesson. A variety of things cause nipples to get erect. Cold is a big one. Pregnancy can do it, as can fear, stress, and being anxious. It’s not like your penis being hard, and it is rarely about sex or arousal. You should also know a woman may have no idea her nipples are erect, much less showing.
This does affect you and me, as much as we might like to deny it. If a woman at work or elsewhere shows you bumps in her blouse, that doesn’t mean she’s into you coming on to you. It also says nothing about her intelligence or her competency. So fight your natural reaction and treat her like you would a woman who was not “bumpy”.
My bigger reason for brining this up is to encourage you to educate your sons. Their natural reaction is to see girls who show erect nipples as more sexual. They will assume she is more willing to have sex, or to do more things. If a girl shows them bumps on a date, they may see it as an invitation. And of course their friends feel the same way, and reinforce these wrong beliefs. Please tell your sons the truth about nipples!
Of course, this is just one part of teaching our young men that women are human beings made in the image of God, not receptacles for male lust!
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I can honestly say that I never associated a woman’s erect nipples with any of the things you linked them too. As a man, my nipples get erect at times and I just connected that same reasoning to women as well.
I guess you are correct in saying that it does “affect you and me” because I’ll admit I do notice, but it is more of a curiosity thing for me, not indicating anything sexual. It is interesting to me from a biological standpoint. How nipple size and location vary from woman to woman is quite amazing. Just reinforces how unique we all are I guess.
I don’t have a son, but I do hope those who do train/teach their boys what you suggested. And remind them that womens bodies are wonderful but God gives us boundaries and guidelines to follow. Treat the women you meet with respect and decency. Hopefully one day you will get to enjoy God’s creation with the “wife of your youth”!