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When we lived in Austin, any temperature under 50° F (10° C ) required a jacket, and at freezing you needed a coat. Now that we live less than 100 miles (161 km) from Canada, I don’t bother with anything if it’s at least 40° F (4° C ) and not windy. And both Lori and I will go out to feed the animals in a T-shirt when it’s freezing and calm. We have become acclimated.
Acclimation happens in marriage too. Some marital acclimation is good, some is not.
Becoming acclimated to minor irritations so that they no longer bother you is a good thing. But when acclimation causes you to ignore your wife asking you for things, that’s a problem. She might be asking for help with something she can’t do or can’t do alone. Or she might be asking you to stop doing something that bothers or hurts her. Either way, being so used to hearing such things that you don’t really hear it is a bad thing.
One particular way this happens is when she downplays something, giving you the nice version rather than telling you it’s a real problem for her. By the time she tells you how much whatever is bothering her, you have become so acclimated to the issue you miss her letting you know she’s not going to take it any more.
A post worth reading:
PsyPost | Relationship dealbreakers: Study identifies the most repelling factors for romantic relationships ◄ Apathy was number one for women.
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