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Every year I point to our fill-and-print coupons as a low-cost or last-minute Christmas gift idea. This year I want to suggest something better.
Coupons for things you hate to do, promising it will be done in 24 hours are an option. Or do it for things you keep forgetting to do. When she hands you the coupon, put it in your wallet so you will see it and do whatever.
What if you gave her coupons for things she would really like from you in the way of changes? For example, if you raise your voice and it bothers her, you could give her coupons that say “I will lower my voice”. If you wanted to go all in, you could laminate it and tell her it’s valid all year long!
Of course, this is really a tool for change. It makes you aware of the situation and reminds you that when you were not in the situation you thought it was something you should stop doing. Such coupons could help you make a change you want to make.
The coupons could also be used for other behaviour issues, including things she does that drive you crazy. So if she is chronically late, give her half a dozen “I won’t mention you’re late or be grumpy about it” coupons. If she is trying to be better about it, these could actually help her change. If not, at least it’s one less fight.
If sex is an ongoing issue for the two of you, you could do coupons for that. Give her a few “Get out of sex-free” coupons. When she hands you one, you stop asking or hinting and do your very best to treat her as if she had said yes. If it’s something you are both okay with, you could give her coupons that read “I’m not up to sex. Think of me while you take care of yourself.”
These things are rather double-edged. It requires her to admit to herself and to you what she is doing. Or not doing, as the case may be. That will challenge her and may motivate her to change. With regards to sex, if her saying no is about time and energy, deciding if she wants to use one of her limited coupons now will also make her think about things.
A post worth reading:
Knowing Her Sexually | Episode 64: Less Stress & More Sex for the Holidays ◄ Make it easier for her to want sex this holiday season.
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