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I’m not a demon behind every bush kind of guy, but I do think we have a supernatural adversary. I lean more towards C. S. Lewis than Pigs in the Parlor, seeing what Satan does as dangling temptations and heresies in front of us to see if he can hook us.
If I were Satan, I would work overtime on messing up sex. There are two directions to go: get folks to have sex with people they’re not married to, and keep them from having sex with the person they are married to. And if you do the first well enough, the second may happen with no extra effort. A lot of women enter marriage so sexually messed up it would take a miracle for them to ever want or enjoy sex.
Keep this in mind the next time you’re tempted sexually. Or the next time you want to push your wife for a sex act you know she doesn’t like. Or refuse her sex, if you’re part of the 20% of marriages where that’s an issue.
It’s not difficult to derail us sexually. All it takes is a little lie that we claim for our own. Porn can certainly do that, as can erotica or non-pornographic TV, movies, or books. What our friends say can be even more destructive. Especially some of what we heard as teens, when we had more testosterone than brain cells.
I suggest you spend some time thinking and praying about what you believe about sex. Are there any lies in there? Have you accepted anything the enemy dangled in front of you?
Beyond that, pray. Pray for God to protect you from the temptations the enemy throws at you and to make you wise to his ways. Also pray for your wife, her mind, and her sexuality.
If your wife is open to it, praying together for your sex life and the various temptations you both face would be a great idea.
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Everyone is fully clothed in an office environment – Yet:
There she is sitting in a forbidden spot – a co-worker’s desk. In all my years n an office, I have never seen anyone sitting on anyone else’s desk. But, the the story really heats up when you see the position of her right hand, pulling that button.
It reminds me of an office “thing” that happened to me one day. I was 35 to 40 years old and I was sitting alone in a semi-public room working on a spreadsheet with a computer. when these two ladies walked in. One was about 40 and the other about 35. Both attractive ladies. They asked the question, which was the reason for their visit, and, after I answered (over my shoulder), I said something “cute” that made them laugh. The 35 year-old was standing directly behind me and as she laughed, she put her hand on my right shoulder. As she continued to laugh, she slid her hand down until it was lying on my right chest/breast (I’m a man). When she realized what she was doing, she jerked her hand away. The other lady (her boss) saw what she did. We all acted embarrassed for a moment and they left.
We never talked about the incident, but it illustrates how temptation can sneak up on you when you are not prepared for it.
Regarding your comment about erotica:
My first wife was an avid reader of “Romance” novels. There was a store that sold paperbacks. You could buy, used, five or six for a very reasonable price and, after they had been read, you could return them, get a partial refund, and buy five or six more. It seems that by page 52 (or was it p. 152?) someone was having sex. The heroes were always the same, with tree trunks for arms, washboard abs, and “bullet-proof” pecs. I suppose they all had heroic character traits.
Fortunately, my wife never held me to the standard of those leading men, but on more than one occasion, she introduced a new item to add to our inventory of positions and practices. She got her ideas from things she read in those “Romance” novels. In our case, the erotica wasn’t a cause of dissatisfaction, but a “classroom” for making our love life even more fun and enjoyable.
@Ol’ Will – Of course, some say the same about porn.