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I recall being in a meeting where one woman said far more than she needed to say. As I left, a fellow who was thirty said to me “She just needs to feel heard.”
I wish I’d been that wise at his age!
I’m old enough to remember when women were pretty much always ignored by men. It’s not as bad today, but it still happens and most women could tell you about it being done to them this month.
Wanting to feel heard is a human thing. Not being heard hurts and it’s especially hurtful when someone you care about won’t listen to you. So ignoring your wife, or cutting her off before she is done, is harmful to your marriage.
This is not a per-issue thing, it’s more of a relationship dynamic. If she feels you usually listen to her, then failing to do so here and there won’t be a big deal. So make a point of listening very well when you can to offset the times you fall short.
A post worth reading:
Dr. Corey Carlisle | Through the fog ◄ Slow down when you’re in a fog.
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I notice that I over-talk when I don’t feel like I’m being heard. Men, if you notice your wife is yammering on too much, that could be why. Assure her lovingly that she’s been heard and her words accepted.
There’s also the sin of loquaciousness. Some may say, “that’s not in the Bible,” but I think it falls under pride. It’s talking because of pride, because you like the sound of your own voice, so to speak. It’s also talking out of turn, like when someone else is speaking, or talking when silence has been ordered. Talking to be controlling, talking to overwhelm someone so you can get your own way, all those are wrong.
People being loud and obnoxious at the Tomb of the Unknown Solider are actually sinning. It isn’t just being rude, it’s a sin of pride.
If your spouse is loquacious out of pride, that’s another ball of wax!