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What would sex be like if you did exactly what she wanted? If you’re thinking “That would mean sex once a month or less” this one is not for you. For the rest of us, how about making it all about her occasionally? As much foreplay as she wants and how she wants it. Her choice of time of day, lighting, clothing, position, and even after-play.
Of course, doing this right requires more than guessing; you will have to talk to her about what she wants. Actually, the talking is one of the points; this is a sneaky way to get her to talk about sex and to communicate what she would like. The other point is giving her exactly what she wants at least once a month. Maybe it is not at all what you like to do, but doing it 100% her way will bless her a great deal, communicate that you love her, and probably make her more interested in sex. You will also learn things about her that you can use to make sex better for her every time you have sex.
To start this, let her know that once in a while you would like sex to be all about her – just the way she wants it to be. Ask her to think about what that would be like and then tell you, or write down what she would like. If she asks, or maybe even if she doesn’t, tell her you don’t expect her to reciprocate by offering to have sex “your way”. This is a no-strings gift because you love her.
[This post first appeared Nov 12, 2011.]
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Sex her way is about all we ever have. There is very little to no fourplay, and it happens about once a month. I wish i could talk her into more of everything more often. Unfortunately that is not what she wants, and what I want dosen’t matter.
Up to me?
We would have sex every day. There would be lots of foreplay. There would be oral sex for me too.
I love my hubby, but none of these happen. And yes, we’ve talked about it many times
What a shame..Guess he doesn’t want to listen…We would get along fine..
You are killing me, lol. I would love sex more often and I have offered to give my wife oral sex anytime she wants it, but she rarely takes me up on it. Very frustrating. it’s a gift I offer and she refuses it. I love lots of foreplay too, her not so much.