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This is a rewrite of the second most read post on the blog.
This method is good as foreplay or to bring her to climax before, after, or instead of intercourse. She needs to be fairly aroused before you start this, so there should be plenty of kissing, hugging, breast play, and some clitoral stimulation before you move to this.
You want her on her back, with you sitting to one side of her. Your legs should be in front of you and her body should be on the side of your dominant hand. Your hips will be about the level of her genitals along the length of her body. Part her legs moderately and roll them out a bit. You’re going to insert your pointer finger while using your thumb on her clitoris. Bring your pointer up, as if you were trying to pinch her gently between your thumb and forefinger – this will stimulate her G-spot.
Your thumb can move in circles, back and forth, up and down, or press in and release. Try variations in speed and the firmness of your touch. Start with a light touch. Try placing your thumb on one side of her clitoris.
Your finger inside can press or rub. Do circles or back and forth. Vary pressure. Don’t worry if you can’t feel her G-spot, you’re in the right place. If she feels uncomfortable or feels she needs to urinate, back off. The urination urge should pass with time, especially if you give her good clitoral stimulation. Do this often and she won’t feel that urge even when you start.
Find a combination of internal and external stimulation that works well for her. Does she want the strongest internal stimulation (pressing in) to match or counter the strongest clitoral stimulation? Does she want the two at the same tempo or does she want one double the speed of the other?
Follow her lead as she gets more and more aroused. If you’re going to switch to intercourse you don’t want to wait too long as she may find the switch annoying. Ideally, she will let you know when to switch. If you think she is too into it to process that, you can say “Let me know when you want intercourse.” And if she decides to come before intercourse, go with it.
If you take her to climax this way, she may start moving around a lot at the end. Watch how she thrusts and try to work with it. When she comes don’t be shy. Women can be overstimulated, but it’s not as significant a problem for them as it usually is for us. Her climax can be made longer by keeping the stimulation up through her orgasm. If she seems to be moving away from your hand, back off a bit.
If you do this with good lighting you will have a very nice view. Watch how her vulva changes as her arousal level increases and enjoy the feeling of her vagina clenching your finger as she climaxes.
A post worth reading:
Marriage365 | 6 Facts About the Clitoris ◄ All true, all things you should know.
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Wow! Never thought of that. :-)
I read this to my hubby, even though it had me blushing. It’s a little graphic, but still super important information! Thank you for putting out there for men who don’t know how to please their wives in this way!
My husband is very good at this, but I know there are many men who are not!
One of my favorite ways to show love to my wife! The one disappointment for me is that, because she feels strongly that we need to finish PiV simultaneously or as close as possible, she has never allowed me to finish her this way. I would SO love to watch as she orgasms without the distraction of my own, even if it meant finishing after. Still, the journey fun, the view is incredible, and naturally still I very much enjoy the finish together when it happens or close when we get the timing off a bit. LOVE this!