“There’s a difference between necessary and sufficient conditions. Lettuce is necessary to make a BLT, but it’s not sufficient. You need other ingredients.” ~ Nate Kornell, Ph.D
That’s a brilliant statement and it has so many useful applications.
Have you ever got bent out of shape because an ingredient you needed for what you wanted was missing? If it was the only thing missing, then it’s a good thing to focus on. But if two or more things are missing, getting all worked up about any single item seems odd. It would be far more reasonable to figure out what it would take to get all the missing parts, and then form a plan to change things. Focusing on the most difficult ingredient first would seem like a good plan. If there’s any chance you can’t get one of the ingredients, it would be silly to waste time, energy, and maybe money, on any of the other items.
And of course, human nature being what it is, I suspect it’s common to make a big deal about an ingredient that someone else, say your wife, is blocking while ignoring the ingredient(s) that you are blocking.
A post worth reading:
Kevin A. Thompson | How Americans Often Read Scripture Incorrectly ◄ Good stuff!
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Can’t make an omlet without eggs,
not spudless mashed potatoes,
and this a vital question begs
(not only on my say-so):
what things are you holding back
from your chosen wife,
and how does this delib’rate lack
affect your married life?
There will surely come a day,
and that day will be rough,
when she will just up and say,
“You know, I’ve had enough;
to give my heart’s what I was taught,
and in return you’ve given squat.”