Did you read the title and wonder what I think we’ve been lied to about? Am I going to go on a political rant? Have I gone over to the conspiracy side? Could it be global warming, rock music, fluoride in drinking water (showing my age) or West Nile virus (so not missing living in Texas)? I think we’ve been lied to about many things, by many people, but since I’m all about marriage that is where I am going with this.
First, a few words about truth:
“Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” [John 8:32 KJV]
Those words of Jesus are famous, but many don’t know the context of the words. Those words are inscribed above the doors of schools and courthouses around the USofA. We’re big on truth, or at least on what we say the truth is; which comes from what we want the truth to be. I agree, the truth does often set us free, but it can also be a burden. If you know but can’t live the truth, or know you’ll suffer if you try to live the truth, then truth may not seem so freeing. If the truth gets between you and what you want to do, the truth is annoying. And if what you hold to be truth is, in fact, not truth, or not fully true, then it is a trap that can hold you back, keep you down, or send you where you shouldn’t go. If your “truth” is at odds with the “truth” of your wife, the truth may cause tension and problems. If you and your wife, agree on something untrue, either of you finding the truth might threaten your friendship.
I say all of this as a warning: seeking truth can upset your life. Truth is good, but it can be very unsettling. Don’t start a search for the truth about anything without understanding the potential cost. Don’t start if you’re not prepared to follow truth to its core and live what you learn. If the truth about marriage requires you to make a massive change in your life, are you ready to do that? If the truth about sex means you need to repent and turn from something, are you going to do so? If the truth means your wife is wrong, are you going to find a loving way to share the truth with her so she can choose to follow or not follow the truth?
If you’re ready to take the risk, share this post with your wife and agree you will read what follows over the next few days. Agree to pray individually and together about what I say. Do not agree to take what I say as truth (because I know I don’t have it all figured out), but rather to use it as a starting place for finding truth.
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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
A Grown Up Marriage
When the Price of Peace Gets Too High ◄ A great article on the price you are willing to pay for “peace” in your marriage.
Black and Married with Kids
The 5 Love Languages (Music Video) ◄ Watch it with your bride.
10 Healthy Actions to Take When You and Your Spouse Are at Odds ◄ Great thoughts.
Husbands Stimulate Your Marriage…be “Domestic Sexy”! ◄ Fits well with a recent discussion here in the comments.
The Generous Wife
Mirror, Mirror ◄ Are you being an accurate mirror for your spouse?
Change of Season Simplifying ◄ Prepare for fall, and simplify as you go.
Living With Less ◄ Less is more – this one if for your kids.
One More Time ◄ If you are saying no to your bride sexually, PLEASE read and heed this.
Are You Sex Hungry? ◄ If your bride is sex hungry, why is that so?
Hot, Holy and Humorous
When He’s Slow to Climax ◄ If it takes you “forever” to reach orgasm, this is for you.
Intimacy in Marriage
What You Must Know About Margin ◄ Julie has an excellent, MUST READ post on margin.
Marriage Life
My Spouse Needs Me to Touch Them ◄ Some very scary statistics.
Secrets to a Happy Marriage ◄ A balanced, sane list.
Marriage Missions International
Seven Steps a Loyal Spouse Can Take to End an Affair ◄ This is by far the best thing I have ever read on this subject.
PLAN to Have a Good Marriage ◄ Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.
Marriage Works
In Sickness and In Health ◄ Here is what that can really look like.
One Flesh Marriage
Oh How I Love Thee ◄ Great ways to put your love in action.
Forever Family ◄ A story of adoption, and a conference for adoptive parents.
Pearl’s OysterBed
ANGER and LIBIDO (Pt.1 of Shark Week) ◄ Do you get angry over a lack of sex?
ANGER and LIBIDO (Pt. 2, Taming the Shark) ◄ Some good ways to learn to deal with anger.
refine us
The Progression of an Affair ◄ A great look at the death spiral that is an affair.
The Romantic Vineyard
11 Artsy Date Ideas ◄ Some art based date ideas.
9 Celebration Date Ideas ◄ Date ideas for celebrating a special day.
Cheap Date Ideas ◄ Dates on a budget.
Safe at home
Putting Some Healthy Limits on Technology ◄ More marriage, less technology.
Stupendous Marriage
What we Can Learn From Divorce – Stupendous Marriage Show 55 ◄ Another good show – especially the title topic.
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