Do you have a handle on your past, and what it can cause you to do or not do? When you feel the urge to react out of your past, are able to choose not to follow those urges. And is you can usually do that, do you maintain control under stress?
What we learn early in life becomes deeply rooted in our minds. These “early lessons” tend to surface when we’re stressed, or tired, or we feel out of control or threatened. When circumstances push us to our limit, self-control is weakens, and we may react out of our oldest fears. This can cause us to feel threatened when there’s no real threat, or disrespect when there’s no disrespect. We may not feel the love and concern of others, even though they are trying to express those things.
Over the next weeks, I’ll talk more about this, and what we can do about it. The first step is to own it when we slip into the past and say or do something unwarranted. Don’t excuse or blame, just admit you let the stress get to you and did something you wish you hadn’t done. Honestly, owning it when you blow it can make your wife feel better. It’s not a solution, and you need to deal with any fall out from what you said or did, but owning your stuff shows you’re a grown up whose trying to improve.
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Once you own the behavior out loud, it starts to unravel and lose it power.
“We are all the ages we have ever been” is very true. Sometimes we see things with very strange filters… as if we are still that child, or that teenager – 20 or 30 years ago.
The hardest part is that maturity requires acknowledging your immaturity… which is very humbling at times. But neccessary for growth.