It seems we live in a world that looks down on “different”. Even in so-called “open-minded” circles, only certain differences are tolerated and even fewer are praised.
What about your marriage – are you open to different? Do you and your wife “allow” each other to be unique or do you work to keep each other within certain bounds? I’m not talking about moral issues here, this is about different ways of seeing and doing things.
The great thing about different is it allows you to see things the crowd will never see. Different sees ideas, beauty, and innovation others miss. Different sees a way to solve a problem others can’t solve. When we discourage different we reduce society; when we encourage different we enrich society. In marriage it’s the same way; encouraging your wife where she’s different enriches your marriage. But limiting her limits your marriage in many ways.
By the way, this one is a bit personal to me. I’m a bit eccentric. Actually, I’m a bit more than a bit eccentric. Early in our marriage, Lori was often embarrassed by/for me or concerned about how I might be perceived. I fully understand why she felt this way. However, she didn’t stay embarrassed or concerned; she grew to accept and love my oddities. She still warns me if she thinks I’m going to offend or hurt others (and I’m deeply grateful for that), but she has given me the amazing gift of acceptance. You can give your wife the same gift if you choose.
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Diversity…without division
Unity…without uniformity
@Marvin – I like it. Thanks for introducing me to Tim Chester.
I’ve had to learn this about my husband concerning his walk with God. God has given him different passions and a different path to follow than he has given me. I am much more family centered and he is more concerned about false teachings. I had to keep telling myself, they are both good and necessary. He is not wrong because he is not passionate about the same things I am.
Difference is a nice opportunity to bring interest/surprise/novelty/fun in the couple. It enriches: who wants to have a dull life? Of course if you’re TOO eccentric than maybe it could be a sanctified path for your spouse…