We all hate being on the short end of double standards. And we all do it to other folks.
One easily missed double standard is how we excuse ourselves and others due to being tired, stressed, or insanely busy. Most of us give ourselves more grace because of these things than we give to others. We give ourselves more of a pass because of stress in our lives. If we didn’t get good sleep, had a difficult day, or have a deadline breathing down our neck, we use that as an excuse for rude or unkind things we do. When others have similar things going on we downplay how bad it is and we certainly don’t give them as much of a pass as we give ourselves.
Of course, part of the issue is that while we know exactly what stress and problems we’re dealing with, we don’t know what others are facing. Maybe we would do well to assume others have something stressful going on that we can’t see. This would be an especially good idea with your wife. It’s better to give grace when it’s not needed than to fail to give grace when we should. Perhaps this might offset our double standards.
Speaking of stress, there is a weighted list of stress. If it shows your total stress and can warn you of an impending health crisis because of that.
Image Credit: © geralt | stock.adobe.com
Shop Amazon ♦ Shop to give links page
We’re donation supported Thanks for your help!
This post may contain affiliate links, see my disclosure for info.
Thank you Paul for the reminder, it’s really helpful!